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Things are getting worse!

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In a recent coaching conversation, my client declared ‘things are getting worse’. Whilst acknowledging his progress in being more skilful and human in his leadership, he was experiencing more occasions of regret, discomfort, awkwardness or embarrassment about his interactions with others. For me, this indicates that things are getting better! (more…)

Beyond words

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Back in the day, I was a Director of Finance in the NHS. Long before I encountered dialogue practices, my deputy and I were preparing for an important meeting that she’d called. We had to gain support from a local peer group for a crucial development. We were expecting opposition. My colleague was very clear and animated about how to push our agenda through. (more…)

Consider this…

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Pause for Breath is five years old today! On Monday 4 July 2011, somewhat reluctantly, I held a launch party for this written manifestation of my dialogue-related work. I still find it hard to be visible in this way – to actively celebrate something I’ve produced. Yet I believe in the power of the practices in the book. I also believe that they, alongside similar approaches, are more necessary than ever before. (more…)

Bare listening

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I’ve been thinking (yet again) about listening, catalysed by two experiences:

resisting the four levels of listening of Otto Scharmer’s Theory U; and

● being drawn towards the premise of listening to connect, proposed in Judith Glaser’s Conversational Intelligence.

As I pondered the roots of my aversion to one idea, and my attraction to the other, I changed my mind about both. (more…)

Dressing down

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A recent swathe of adverse comments reminded me of an incident from my first job, in a merchant bank. After some initial training, I was placed in the treasury function. I speculate that this decision was based on my maths degree rather than personal aptitude! The dealing room was an alien world. Thankfully, some kindly-disposed ‘old hands’ helped me learn the ropes. (more…)

Holding conversations

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The more dialogue-related work I do, the greater my appreciation for the connection between the outcome of a conversation and the climate within which it’s held. By ‘outcome’ I mean not just the immediate ‘upshot’, but the impact of the conversation on relationships and the bigger system. (more…)

Sounds of silence

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Since my return from a silent retreat, I find myself talking a lot about not talking. The irony doesn’t escape me. While words can’t fully express the experience and impact of silence, I continue to explore how I might articulate its merit in embodying dialogue practices.

I’ve written about silence before – in my book, Pause for Breath, and in an article for Coaching at Work, about a visit to Bhutan. In the latter, I described silence as part of the landscape – a textural backdrop into which sounds seemed to fall and dissolve. (more…)

Rhythms of rest

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In Scotland, February can seem to be the grimmest month – the short, cold days are similar to those in December and January, but are unmitigated by preparations for festivities, or the optimism of new beginnings. In previous years, I’ve been heard to say that the only advantage of February is that it is short! This year, though, in my wee spot, the weather has been mostly settled – cold, yet bright, and still, yet with a quality of anticipation that is almost Spring-like.

It’s a different rhythm – a contrast to the most obvious ‘story’ of February. (more…)

System upgrades

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I began this year in retreat, solitary and silent. It was a period of much needed self-examination and reflection following an autumn in which I’d become increasingly ragged. My ability to be present was reduced, impacting the quality of my work. I was crabby and short-tempered with those I love. I was ‘out of sorts’, with a sense of having lost contact with my essential nature, the inner architecture that guides me, and supports my best work.

The erosion of my capacity was attributable to a gradual accumulation of causes, some clearly self-inflicted. (more…)

L-edges

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Witnessing extreme cyclist Danny MacAskill ride Collie’s Ledge in the Cuillin Mountains is a heart-stopping experience. Two fellow coaches watched ‘The Ridge’ with me, and could barely look. A small camera on Danny’s helmet allowed us to share in the vertiginous drops, and the judders and bumps of the narrow rocky trail.

The short film is already an internet sensation. For me though, the documentary about the making of it is more potent. In this, the toil and care involved in getting the spectacular footage demonstrates the dedication and commitment required of the team. There can be no short cuts in navigating the rugged terrain and the vagaries of the Scottish weather. (more…)